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How To Get Dates: The Secret Power of Compliments

 
Author: Tonja Weimer

Did you ever notice how some rather "ordinary" looking people have no trouble attracting all the dates they want? If you followed them around for a while you might discover their secret--the art of the compliment.

Compliments have a force not completely understood by many people. They create a surge of positive emotion in both the sender and the receiver. If you are single, learning how to compliment someone you are interested in can mean the difference between success and failure.

Compliments highlight the fact that you have been paying attention to the person you are talking to or have noticed. Positive validation of another induces a rush of good feeling in them; you in turn receive their happiness by way of a smile and a shared moment of connection, which reinforces feeling good about yourself. Compliments are a win-win for everyone.

It is important to note that your compliments must be genuine. Compliments given to manipulate others to gain an advantage are offensive and usually transparent.

To become an expert in paying a compliment, look for what is truly attractive, admirable, or endearing in another person and then tell them about it. Do not gush or drag it out. Otherwise, it sounds like you are expecting something in return. Many people often refrain from giving compliments because they don't want to seem like they are "buttering" someone up. If you feel this way, imagine shifting your thoughts about that act of kindness to the following: giving sincere praise is an act of generosity and love.

The interesting side benefit of giving compliments is that the more you give, the more you will receive. They are especially effective in breaking the ice when you are meeting someone new. To pay attention to what someone says, what they wear, or what they do is flattering. People love to be around someone who sees something good about them. It makes them feel appreciated.

Learn to pay thoughtful compliments and notice how the level of your attraction rises. As your attraction rises, so will the number and quality of your dates.

Author Bio:

Tonja Weimer

Tonja Evetts Weimer is a Master Certified singles relationship and life coach, speaker, syndicated columnist and author.

Tonja is a full time professional coach with a practice in Greenville, SC. She helps individuals, especially singles, re-craft their lives and find happiness and success in their career and relationships. Some of Tonja's professional activities include:

==> Syndicated singles relationship columnist, writing SAVVY DATING, a weekly column read by over a million readers in many U.S newspapers. Tonja's column addresses relationship and life issues of interest to all adults, but particularly to the over 110 million singles in the U.S. Tonja has also had articles published in New Woman, Hope, and House Beautiful magazines, and has won 3 Matrix Awards for her writing.

==> Motivational speaker, Tonja has been a keynote presenter at national and international conferences over the last 30 years.

==> Author of materials for educators and parents (7 books, six music albums and 2 videos), which have won 22 awards.

Some Speaking and Media Highlights:

==> Keynote speaker for 2004 Women?s Issues Network Conference, Sumter, SC.

==> Keynote speaker for 2002 Parents as Teachers International Conference, St. Louis, MO.

==> Keynote speaker for 1999 International Conference for Children & Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder.

==> Keynote speaker for 1998 European Education Conference, in Mannheim, Germany.

==> Keynote speaker in 35 U.S. states at educational conferences.

==> Presenter at the International Special Olympics in Notre Dame, at the request of Eunice Kennedy Shriver.

==> Created Space Songs for Children, at the request of NASA (album taken into space by astronauts three times.)

==> Appeared on CNN?s Showbiz Today and many other TV shows.

Educational and Professional Qualifications:

==> National Fellow (U.S. Dept. of Education.) M.A. in Human Development and Education, with an emphasis on creativity.

==> Master Certified Singles Relationship Coach, Relationship Coaching Institute.

==> Personal Life Coach, Graduate, Institute for Life Coach Training.

==> Member, International Coaching Federation

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