Your marriage is still fresh in your mind as the experience of a lifetime and then one day you get a phone call from somebody you've never heard of demanding to speak to your wife about a certain outstanding debt. The thought runs through your mind that the person you married may not be the one you thought you knew so well.

The problem is lack of honest and open communication. You have this problem against a backdrop of many marriages failing because of disputes of finances.

Clearly this a problem you need to eliminate from your relationship if it's to be a long and happy one.

Your answer can be found in Marriage Makeover Part 3. Here you sit down and write out a list of open-ended questions that you need to put to the new love of your life. These should be followed up with probing questions that establish just what debts are owned by your life partner.

Before you approach them with these questions you need to work at developing the right attitude. Your upset about the phone call and you feel betrayed. You must put that hurt aside and remind yourself that the debt collector may well have got the wrong client.

Comfort yourself with the fact that happens all too often.

Then work out a way to explain to your wife that you want to have a chat to them so that you can have a future with none of the financial surprises that shipwreck a lot of marriages. It's really important you display the best of intentions in having this meeting about finances.

Next be sure not to talk yourself out of having the actual meeting. Be bold and kind.

Follow these steps and you will build a good solid future together with Marriage Makeover Part 3.

Copyright 2006 Kenneth Little