So you're writing your own marriage vows. But unlike picking the photographer, you can't just let the experts handle it.

Well, you could. But you decided to do it yourself.

Where do you begin? How do you put it down on paper? Use the following tips to unlock your inner vow-maker.

Study The Classics

Do you want completely new vows? Or a more personalized version of an old favorite?

Using an existing format is much easier than starting from scratch. You can rewrite the words. Or add a few extra sentences.

Investigate vows from other cultures to get more ideas.

Writing your vows from scratch? Here are some suggestions.

Declare Your Love

This is a marriage. Be romantic. Your vows don't have to be poetry. Write a simple "John, you're the most wonderful man I've ever met, and I love you." It's moving.

Or you could mention a defining moment in your history together: "Ever since the time you [whatever it was] I knew you were the one for me."

If you're still drawing a blank, list your fiance's good points. "John, you're the kindest, most loving man I've ever met."

Words of Commitment

You've declared your love in your vows. Now say how long you plan on sticking to the marriage.

Here are some examples:
"I promise to walk through life with you."
"I promise to stick with you through the good times and bad."

Special Circumstances

Are there step-children? Consider including them in your marriage vows. "I promise to love your children as if they were my own."

Draw up a list of values you share. Are you religious? Are you dedicated to a cause? Is there anything you would like to vow to do together?

Humor

Hey, it's your wedding. Liven up your vows if you want. Just don't turn the marriage into a big joke.

One joke per person will make your wedding memorable yet dignified.

Don't get too specific. There is such a thing as too much information. And don't promise anything you don't want to do.

Your spouse might hold you to it!

Examples of marriage-safe vows:
"I promise to share the remote sometimes."
"I promise to cook at least once every ten years."

Remember: Hedge hedge hedge.

Keep It Short

In marriage it's better to vow less and deliver more. Ditto for your wedding. You might forget long vows during the ceremony. And who wants to go up there with a big sheet of paper?

Writing your own marriage vows is an intense experience. But it doesn't have to make you crazy. Use these tips and you'll cover your bases. And create beautiful, personal vows. Even if you aren't Shakespeare.