What if Oprah had been aware of how to work masterfully with her human nature when lied to?

It is my intention to bring the headlines of our everyday life into the realm of the spiritual namely becoming a spiritual scientist. There are many occasions that present themselves on our TVs, radios and movies that show so well how the human nature behaves when triggeredbut not much representation for the other side. How would a cocreator react if using spiritual scientist tools? So lets begin with Oprah and the hoohah about James Freys lying in his memoir, A Million Little Pieces.

Did you read the book? I did and loved it. Not only did I read it but recommend it to many clients and friends with the endorsement, The best book Ive ever read on overcoming addiction. This, I may add, from the daughter of an alcoholic.

So, I could relate to Oprah in her embarrassment to find out that the book she recommended to her loyal followers had parts that were fabricated by the author. AND, to make matters worse, she defended him at first and then had to recount in front of several million viewers the error of her ways.

I dont like eating crow either, Oprah.

Applause for Oprah for apologizing on national TV. You dont see that very often, I must say. But what followed blaming and shaming James Frey for his fabrication, lying, twisting the truth ahhhhh, heres where I would like to diverge into another type of dialogue that could have taken place on national television if only Oprah had been studying the tools of becoming a spiritual scientist.

Heres my imaginary dialogue

O So, Jameswhat exactly in the book is a lie? Or, to note literary embellishment, what did you fabricate?

James Well, I wasnt really blah blah blah. And I didnt really blah blah blah. And, the character Lilly, well, she really blah.

O You know James, when I hear you confess to these lies, I get this pain in my gut. Its really intense. So intense that I have to ask myself Self, what is going on? What is being triggered here?

James no comment

O And what I hear inside is Well, I dont like being lied to. It makes me feel unsafe and that I cant trust you. In fact, who can I trust? All of a sudden, the world seems unsafe and dangerous.

Now, I could get really angry at you blame and shame you for lyingembarrassing me, making up stuff for your book.really James, youre book was so sensational. Why did you need to fabricate the facts?

James Thats a good question, Oprah. You know, after all these years of being sober theres still a part of me that doesnt feel like who I am or what I am is enough. So, it wants to make up things..

O Exactly. I know that part inside of me. Here I amwidely successfulrich beyond my wildest dreamsand theres still a small part that is afraid that I wont measure up. I think it got triggered when I found out that you did fabricate parts of your book. Oh dear, that part thought. I really dont measure up. I backed a liar.

James That probably didnt feel very good.

O No, it didnt. But you know what I did to feel good? I decided to work inside myself with that part that was in fear and didnt feel safe. I decided to find out what I needed to do to OWN the part of ME that this triggered. In other words, What part of me lies to me because it still doesnt feel good enough?

James And what did you learn?

O I learned that I still secretly harbor a fear that people will find out that I dont know what Im talking about that I dont know anything..(chuckling) What if thats true? What if I dont know anything?

What about you James? Do you know anything after all these years of sobriety?

James (pause) I know that being sober is better than being wasted. I know that life is about learning.about growingabout helping others.

O Lets see. I know that its worth it to stick your neck out. I know that you can make something of yourself regardless of your past. I know that I want to be honest above all elseand I know that I care.

So what do we do with you? A million people are waiting.

James Oprah, you have been a tremendous gift. This is my next step in becoming well. Thank you. I will make a commitment to write the truth if thats my genre from now on. And, if writing fiction, then make it honest!!!! I believe people are hungry for that.

O And I want to thank my human nature for, once again, showing me where I can get bigger expand in my loving of my humanityand the humanity of others.

Lets here it for all the spiritual scientists out there who would rather take full responsibility and work in self-mastery than blame and shame.

Light to you!!! Rebecca