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Index » Self Help » Success Strategies
 

Success: The ABC's

 
Author: Ken Donaldson

I like to make things simple, like the ABC's. It makes it easier for me to remember and therefore, live that way in my life. I'd like to share my ABC model with you.

A stands for Attraction; more specifically the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction states that like energies attract each other. Positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative.

Therefore, if you are putting out negative energy you will therefore attract negative energy into your life. Likewise, if you are putting out positive energy you will attract positive energy into your life.

So the question is: What vibration are you sending out? If it is negative, how about experimenting with some new ways of managing your life to create more positive energy?

B stands for Boundaries; and that includes both the boundaries that you have with others and the boundaries you have with yourself. Saying "No" to something that is unacceptable is an example of a boundary, as is assertively and proactively asking for what you do want.

Your boundaries with yourself will determine how much balance you have in your life. Knowing where to end one part of your life (i.e.: Work) and begin another (i.e.: Family) will help you to stay in touch with your whole being and therefore create more balance, which, in turn, always results in a happier and healthier lifestyle.

Do you know your boundaries and are you living according to them?

C stands for Communication; specifically your ability to attain and maintain productive communication with others. Do you know how to avoid getting "hooked" by another's manipulative maneuvering? Do you speak up for yourself, express your feelings and your requests directly? These are all examples of healthy communication skills.

But perhaps the biggest communication skill is that of listening. Do you know how to combine martial artistry with your listening ability and create a space of "Zen Listening" in which you can be unaffected by what another may say but still stay in the conversation?

D stands for Deal-makers and Deal-breakers; specifically your ability to know them and adhere to them. If you have not written your lists of deal-makers and deal-breakers, then you are potentially setting yourself up to settle for something or someone beneath your standards. When you settle for less you impact your self-esteem and distort your sense of reality.

The bottom-line is that living life without knowing or adhering to your deal-makers and deal-breakers sets you up for failure, depression, anxiety and addictive behavior. Now, you don't want any of that, right'!!

Write your Deal-makers and Deal-breakers lists TODAY!!

E stands for Emotional Management; specifically the management of the "slipperier" emotions. This would especially include anger, fear and sadness. Most of us have not had any training on how to deal with these so we have made up our own "rules" about these emotions. Many of these "rules" are very unrealistic and unhealthy.

The bottom-line is that you are an emotional being and you have every right to feel and express your feelings as long as you no harm to others as you are expressing yourself.

Fear is perhaps THE most challenging emotion, but remember: You can have FEAR (Fictitious Events Appearing Real) or FEAR (Face Everything And Rejoice).

Which do you choose'

There you go: A whole new way of living your ABC's that youll never be too old for!!

Author Bio:

Ken Donaldson

Ken Donaldson, the REALationship Coach, has been based in Tampa Bay, Florida offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. He is a licensed mental health counselor; board certified as an addictions professional and clinical hypnotherapist; and certified as a master relationship coach. Ken is a graduate of the University of South Florida, the Institute for Life Coach Training and the Relationship Coaching Institute. He has been exclusively in private practice since 1993.

Ken is the author of the new breakthrough life and relationship success book Marry YourSelf First! Saying ?I Do? to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose. The material in this book is a result of Donaldson?s 15+ years of clinical counseling and coaching with thousands of individuals and couples. In this book, he reveals what he has discovered as the 20 core Principles of Passion, Power and Purpose. When these principles are applied to your life you can overcome self-limiting patterns and create abundant happiness, fulfillment and success in your life and relationships.

Donaldson?s primary message from this book is to ?Master Your Life and Your Relationships!? Purchasers of this book are eligible for free coaching and educational programs to support and promote optimal growth and success.

Ken founded the REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first.

Included are the monthly Saturday Series workshops and the REAL Talk Forums. These programs are for couples and individuals alike, and help the participants live the most passionate and balanced lives possible.

He also facilitates the Marry YourSelf First program that assists singles to have more successful relationships and more satisfying lives. The graduates of this program leave with a clear vision of who they are, what they want, and how to get it.

In addition, he offers the Partners for Life programs for both pre-committed and committed couples that provide the tools and resources to help couples create relationships that are both lasting and fulfilling. Couples report that they have deeper intimacy and more fun as a result of utilizing the tools from these programs.

Ken also offers education and training programs for businesses and community organizations on a variety of personal growth and business improvement topics.

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