Plan Ahead:

1. Parents should discuss and agree who is responsible for getting the child settled in to their new surroundings upon arrival at the party. Also, discuss a time frame that each one will spend looking after the child so both have the opportunity to enjoy the party without interruption.

For example, one parent takes a turn spending hour with the child, then the other parent takes over. This time arrangement is a realistic and workable solution for many parents.

2. If an older child of babysitting age is available, you may arrange to have her take care of your child during the party so both parents are free to relax and enjoy.

3. Discuss in advance with your child what will be expected of her at the party. Issues such as where the child will be and where the parents will be should be covered, as well as what time the child will be expected to go to bed if that's part of the arrangement.

Stress the fun she will have and how proud you will be if s/he behaves "like a big kid". Keep it lighthearted and accentuate the positive.

4. If possible, arrange play time with a child or children of another party guest, preferably those with whom your child has a history of cooperative play.

Anticipate and Avoid Triggers for Bad Behavior:

5. Remember that sleepiness can lead to crankiness, so make sure your child is well rested in advance. This means planning a nap prior to party time for a baby or toddler. In addition, call and make prior arrangements with your hostess as to where your child can nap or rest during party time.

6. If left to their own devices, kids will gravitate to sugary foods, especially if your hostess doesn't have any kid-friendly snacks available. It's smart to provide a meal prior to the party and/or bring a nutritious snack for your child like 100% juice pouches, pretzels, popcorn or animal crackers.

Make It Comfortable:

7. Designate an area where the child will "camp out" for the duration of the party. Set the scene for a satisfied toddler with a pop-up nylon tent complete with a familiar blanket, doll or teddy. Even older kids will feel secure at the party location by bringing a sleeping bag and their own pillow from home.

8. Pack a party bag of toys, activity books and games for playtime. An older child can bring a portable DVD player and a couple of favorite movies.

Reinforce Good Behavior:

9. Praise your child's good behavior throughout the party, so she'll want to keep it up. Expressing your pleasure will reinforce the desired behavior and result in a win-win situation for child and parents alike.

10. Enjoy yourself! Your upbeat attitude will rub off on your child. If you're having fun, she will too.